2013 certainly seems to have people thinking outside of the box.  The Boudoir Session inquires have been pouring in, and I’m thrilled to say men are beginning to see it as something they can do as well!  A male session is different – as I try to go after an edgier, harder, more dramatic look.  Soft and sensual just doesn’t quite fit!  However, there are similarities.  I still start off slow – maybe a great outfit, shirt and tie, and sunglasses.  A well dressed man is just sexy.  And add in some killer shades – the mysteriousness heightens for sure.

I find that using more dramatic lighting, even intensifying the contrast and shadows works.  After we ditch the shades and the vest – unbuttoning the shirt, or having a tie hang open…again its just sexy!  I’ve had to privilege to work with this guy a few times over the years.  So we have an established relationship, and he trusts my eye.  Given that men don’t tend to have the body image issues that women have – establishing that trust doesn’t seem quite as difficult.  However, I still believe that communication is key from the start.  I love the pre-session consults, brainstorming ideas, and mapping out a plan for the session.  Letting these fellas know… “I’ve got this”  seems to put them instantly at ease.  Leaving their only job, to rock it out for the camera.

Wrap it up with some time in the sheets, and you’ll have a collection of images with great variety!  The posing of men is different, which requires shifting my thought process.  I know many photographers hate when clients suggest “Pinterest”.  Believe me, I get it!  The best advice for you, is do not go into your photo session requesting image after image, expecting your photographer to replicate a shot you’ve seen.  Bottom line – it’s incredible restricting to the creative process.  That being said, I’m all for using it as inspiration. You must keep in mind that you are not that guy or woman in the shot. You are not in that location.  And, I am not that photographer.  You will only set yourself up for disappointment if you think you can come out of your session with THAT EXACT SHOT.  Instead, use photos you like as concepts.  Discuss the feel, or vibe you like about it.  And most importantly, allow your photographer to interpret your ideas, and create their vision for you.  The best shots, are often the ones that happen in an instant, organically!